I am having one of those crazy-insane months where I am just trying to “keep up” and, in doing so, I leave the time for myself behind. Yesterday, I took a trip to the store specifically for cat food and left with yogurt and bananas…no cat food. I have promised, and consequently forgotten, to deliver a gift card to my partner Heather no less than 10 times the past two days…no lie. And, tonight I started to make a citrus chicken recipe and opened the fridge to find I didn’t buy any chicken. It’s at the store with the cat food.
So, in an exhausting nutshell, I am doing way too much with too little time and I know I am not alone. I know you have or have had that overwhelming experience where you are just trying to stay on top of the demands of daily life and you let YOU fall to the background. Your nails may look like mine – jagged, uneven, unpolished and in desperate need of some TLC. Your bedroom may look like mine – clothes strewn on the floor, drawers open, bed unmade and in need of fresh linens. Your kitchen may look like mine – crumbs on the counters, dishes in the sink, homework on the table waiting to be finished.
We all have those crazy-insane times in our lives when daily demands interfere with that precious time for ourselves. And, we women sometimes have a hard time capturing and making sacred time set aside specifically for US. Putting ourselves first is a habit we need to form and a habit we need to practice keeping.
Today, in between an appointment and trying to reschedule a meeting I was unable to make, I promised myself next week would be different. I promised to block four hours during one day next week where I would not schedule meetings, or return emails, or volunteer at school, or run errands. I would just do what I want to do for ME and ME alone. I can’t wait for next week.
I think if I make it a habit to block a span of a few hours once a week I could really get a better hold on to my daily life. And, the more often I make putting ME first, the more engrained that habit will become.
Why don’t you join me? Look at your schedule for next week, push aside the guilt and obligations, and block your calendar for a few hours just for YOU. Take that time to read a book, savor a cup of coffee, take a walk, call your sister, do your nails, wash the dishes…whatever YOU want to do. And, do that the following week as well. Then, let’s swap experiences and discuss how our lives feel different when we put ourselves first. I, for one, will probably be able to leave the store with cat food in my bag. How about you?
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